proud but shocked

tonight my oldest came to me and told me some things. not all of which i will share. she was suppossed to go to a huge sleepover tonight at a friends house. im talking like 15 girls! and i thought it was odd today when i got a text from her telling me no she wasnt going but that her best friend would be coming to our house instead tonight. keep in mind both girls were invited to this bday party. unfortunately my daughter got her eyes opened very wide about what some of her friends were into. and she had no idea till today when they were all talking at lunch about what was going on at the party tonight. well apparently drugs were to play a huge part in this tonight. my daughter took it upon herself to just tell them she wasnt allowed to go to the party. i didnt ask why she changed her mind. i figured she had her reasons and woulkd tell me when she felt like it. wasnt expecting the reason she gave me. so as a reminder to anyone with kids please talk talk talk about drugs to your kids. Let them know the truth about what can happen if they use them. I am so glad we have been so open with our kids about all the important topics. Some would be shocked at the conversations that happen at our dinner table. But I tell you what it has been the best time and place to discuss anything and everything. And tonight was a reminder to me as to why it has been an open door policy for any topic in my house. And it was a small moment of "yes we did it". Like a reward or something letting us know we are doing something right with our kids. I am saddened that she had to learn tonight just what exactly her friends are into. But i am glad that she was strong enough to tell us and make the right decision on her own. I am very proud of her because this as a very mature decision on her part. And it was not an easy decision for her to tell us. And to me this was a very very big deal and a very major sign that we are doing things right with our kids. I love all four of my kids and am just so very proud of my oldest tonight. I know how hard this was for her tonight.